Why You Needn't Be Afraid to Decide

In my tarot readings, coaching sessions and conversations with friends and family, I’m repeatedly reminded of ☝️ specific human fear: commitment.

Commitment to an idea, to a person, to a career path or otherwise putting “all eggs in one basket.”

I've been paralyzed by commitment myself. Many times over, in fact. But, one simple principle has significantly reduced my anxiety around decision making altogether:

Nothing is permanent.

All is impermanent, regardless of our decisions to commit. You may think that one decision charts a course for the rest of your life, and you may already perceive roadblocks along the way.

But the truth is, natural order will find its way, regardless. Career paths change, relationships end, things shift and pass away and make room for the fresh and beautifully new.

When we look at someone who’s lived a full life, their paths were charted not only by big decisions and milestones but by unexpected happenstance and billions of daily micro-decisions which either reinforced or redirected their commitments.

You don't have to fear putting all your eggs in one basket because your basket was an illusion in the first place — a mental construct to make you feel like you'll have security from here on out.

"The search for security is illusion. In ancient wisdom traditions, the solution to this whole dilemma lies in the wisdom of insecurity. This means that the search for security and certainty is actually an attachment to the known...The known is nothing other than the prison of past conditioning. There's no evolution in that...and when there is no evolution, there is stagnation, entropy, disorder, and decay."

— Deepak Chopra in The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success

We all experience painful endings and look back, only to realize what happened was for the best.

If we can approach jobs, relationships and life's seasons with the inner knowing that all is impermanent, with the courage to release the future and focus on the now and with the faith that whatever happens is for our absolute highest good, this makes space for a more gentle and, in my opinion, more meaningful unfolding of life's most special commitments.

So, when it comes to any commitment, your goal is not to make a decision for a lifetime, but rather to take one step in a direction that is aligned with your current intentions and your highest self.

Sunday is a great day to set your intentions for the week, to place your eggs where you please and then release expectations of what exactly that will look like.

If, next week, everything looks different, honor this as a symbol of your evolution. Change is how we dance with life.