and energy motions (e-motions)
When my Reiki teacher can feel that a client won’t allow themselves to release built up energy with tears, she will cry for them; she will be a vessel for that energy to leave their bodies. I share this because, when I learned this, it completely shifted my understanding of interactions and emotions.
In fact, thinking about energy as a physical entity that is created, stored and shared has allowed me to entirely reshape my tendency toward anxiety and depression.
We each work with energy all day every day. It’s all around us and—when we interact with other people—flowing through and between us. If you are a human (multiply by 100 if you’re an empathetic human), you likely take on the energy of others and, due to the intent behind the words, body language or physical contact that was offered, or because of your own yearning to make sense of and control your environment, you may circulate that energy within your mind (stress) and then store it in your body to release later when you have time to feel it completely.
The root of many of our most common mental and physical ailments, I believe, is in the storing of negative energy. So how do we avoid it?
The first step in reshaping our relationship with energy is noticing it.
In your next several interactions with others, become an observer. Note how you feel beforehand, pay close attention to their energy as you interact and observe how you feel after the interaction takes place. Chances are, their actions and reactions have impacted your energy in some way.
You may feel completely different after exchanging words, glances, movements or physical touch. Perhaps your self-talk shifts and confidence in your decisions waxes or wanes. What’s happening in this situation is the reception, and recirculation of the other being’s energy. I say being because animals offer us their energy too. :)
Lower vibrational energy isn’t only given to us; it can be created within us. Its roots can be found in dreams (even the ones you can’t remember), doing things you don’t want to be doing and being in one physical location while putting your energy elsewhere. Each of these scenarios are either energetically overwhelming or depleting.
tips for noticing
Noticing energy takes practice, and meditation is, for me, the simplest way to do that. Here’s a simple way to adopt a daily meditation practice:
Set a timer for 10-minutes. Close your eyes. Turn your focus to your breath and nothing but the breath. You are not your thoughts. You are an observer. Observe the thoughts and emotions that come up for you. Allow them to come and go as if you’re sitting on the banks of a river and they’re floating down and past you on a small boat. That’s it!
If you want a guiding voice, try the Calm app and complete the “21 days of Calm” series. I guarantee, after 100 days of mediation, “noticing” yours and others energy will become second nature. This will allow you to catch negative energy and circulation, and cut it off so to start rewiring your brain for a more joyful life.
Beyond developing awareness of energy, we can establish practices of deflecting, investigating or releasing it.
You may have heard that emotions (think e-motions) are simply energy in motion. Energy is trying to move through, and out of, your body. And at this point, you have a choice: swallow your tears, hold back your words, stay still OR let it flow, cry it out, say that difficult thing, dance, run, let it move.
As you become an astute observer of energy and emotions, practice deflecting energy which is not meant for you, investigating the emotions which are attempting to move through you and releasing energy in the way that best suits you. Here are some tactics:
In your daily dealings out in the world, you may confront energy that is not intended for you. This can show up in the form of road rage, sassy emails, judgemental glances and beyond. The key to deflecting is practicing the analysis of whether lower vibrational energy is a reaction to you or if it’s rooted in something that person created or received from someone else. If someone calls you a name from their car, their anger is not likely about you. Practice deflection. You do not have to receive that anger and be the vessel for that person’s emotions. That is for them to work out.
When you notice a particular energy sticking within yourself, ask what is behind the emotions that come up for you. Is this really my own? Can I pinpoint when the exact moment was that I started feeling this way? If you can’t come up with an answer, simply let it be there and, then, let it move on. If this energy returns, chances are you need to have a conversation with someone, make your truth known or work on self love and forgiveness.
What I have come to find is that energy that wells up and comes out of my eyes (unexpected crying) NEEDS to come out. It’s those in-the-moment releases that we should be having more often so we don’t store negative energy. Learn to differentiate, though, between energy that needs to move through you and emotions that you are circulating by dwelling on memories or future projections. The dwelling and recirculating of energy, for me, is where depression settles in and makes itself comfortable. Here are some tactics for releasing energy:
For recently-stored energy, find an objective listener who will allow you to speak without judging or giving their opinion. The best friends are those who are simple mirrors for us, reflecting back our best selves and offering love above all else.
For deeper, older stored energy, seek out reiki or hypnotherapy—a practice that will help you put your noisy mind at ease while you excavate the true root of any lower vibrational energies. Sometimes we can talk in circles and never really know the real root of our pain. I have accomplished more in one of these sessions than I did in 10 years of on and off therapy.
Tapping (EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique) - watch a demonstration here
Of course, if we can give one another low vibrational energies we can also give positivity. I’m sure you’ve been confronted with road rage, but have you ever seen someone in absolute joy dancing and singing in their car? As we work on deflecting, feeling and releasing energy each day, don’t forget to create those moments for yourself, making yourself a beautifully positive tuning fork for the world.